Lots of great points and well written responses.....
JayRo wrote:It used to be kid's lives revolved around the parent's lives/schedules. From what I can see now it is role reversal.
Exactly. Back when I was on an upward trajectory, married, and planning to start a family......my ex and I talked a lot about how our kids would be a part of our lives versus us being a part of theirs.
As with everything, there is a time and a place for a kid to be front and center and the focus of everyone else's lives. But those times should be moments, maybe a day, like their Birthday, and that's about it....unless they come down with leukemia or something serious.
If I had kids I would do the same exact shit as what I normally would be doing without kids 85% to 90% of the time. The adults would do what they want/need to do since they're the fukcing adults. AKA the people who pay the bills, put food on the table, have to work and take care of shit, and have way more on their plates being that they run the show....so if there's an open afternoon on a Saturday and the kids want to go see some gay Star Wars film that just came out, mom wants to go to farmer's market followed by some thrift shopping, and dad [me] wants to fishing.....
....it'd be a 65/30/5 breakdown in order of who's shit we end up doing going mom/dad/kids.
It severely pisses me off how most kids today think it's their parents job to entertain them. My 9yo nephew is always on a fukcing tablet and when he's told to turn it off waits about five minutes before going, "Hmph! I'm booooored!"
Whenever I hear it I bluntly go,
"There's no such thing as boredom.....only boring people."
Which is typically followed by parents, other aunts and uncles, and grandparents listing off stuff he could do and going, "Does that sound like fun? How about this idea....does that sound like fun?"
It's absolutely fukcing pathetic. Tell the fukcer to go play with some sticks or build a fort or do anything besides sit there and be a whiny, boring, pathetic loser.
Oh boo hooo! A kid is bored.....as long as he's not screeching then I don't give a fukc. Either he figures out how to use his imagination and entertain himself or he's a boring loser no one will like throughout his life. Time for him to sink or swim.
Drunk_Dynasty wrote:I love when parents are like "oh you think you're tired? You don't even have kids, you don't know how easy you have it. try doing all that plus getting kids ready for school etc etc". Yes! That is exactly the point of not having any kids!
When I was six I got put on a weekly alternating rotation with my two older brothers where we'd alternate setting the table, clearing the table, and doing the dishes for a week. My parents never fukced with that shit. We also had weekly chores like cleaning the windows/glass, a bathroom, etc. I started doing my own laundry in the second grade not because I had to, but because I asked to do it. Being the third of six at that time I got sick of my favorite clothes going to the laundry room and not coming back for an indefinite amount of time....or at all.
I wanted independence as a kid. So did my siblings. If our parents were helping us with something....like baking cookies, tuning up our bicycles, running an outboard, or building something.....it was because they jumped in to show us, which almost always pissed us off. We wanted to do it ourselves.
Nowadays parents seem to like catering to their whiny kids's demands. If they ask where their favorite shirt is it's answered with a, "Oh, I'm so sorry!" and then mom or dad dropping everything to frantically dig through the laundry until they find it and immediately wash it, and then hand deliver it folded and still warm from the dryer to their room with another sincere apology they didn't have it washed and delivered to them sooner.
It's fukcing pathetic.
Point being?
If you raise kids right they can actually do shit and contribute to lightening the household's load.
The parents that say shit like, "Wait until you have kids....you think you're tired now!? Haha!" are almost always the laziest parents who drown their kids in screens so they can do the same.
Mallard_maniac wrote:I don't really have a dog in this fight..... but children have changed very little from generation to generation, the adults on the other hand....
Well put.
That's the sad part.....it's not these kids's fault for being awful. It's the fault of their parents.
I just don't understand how the parents can't see how badly they're cheating their kids and setting them up for failure. They make them think the world revolves around them, that everyone is concerned about their feelings, and don't let them do stuff....let alone struggle and face adversity when doing stuff.....to where once they're out on their own they're not going to know what hits them.
This world can be a hard and brutal place even when you're prepared, tested, and toughened up for it. Hopefully I'm wrong and all these little fukcers running around today won't be softer than baby shit and fold like a cheap suit when it's their time to step out into it.....